You’re perfectionist and hard on yourself, we get it. We’re guilty of putting too much pressure on ourselves and expecting more than we can give. What we don’t understand though is how this is affecting our mental health and relationships.
It is vital to your happiness that you stop and think before you turn to negativity. When you constantly fill your head up with negative thoughts, you are also filling up your world up with unnecessary anxiety and self-doubt.
Here are some toxic questions you need to stop asking yourself:
1. Why am I such a failure?
Without failure, there is no success. Instead of telling yourself you’re a failure when things don’t go according to plan, dust yourself off and try again. Nothing worth having ever came easy, and unfortunately, we will fail at things from time to time.
2. Why is everyone having more fun than me?
This is when you know you’re spending too much time on social media and comparing your life to other people. Comparison is the thief of joy, and we overestimate what other people’s lives are like on social media. Keep in mind; no one shares the tough stuff and things they don’t want people to see. In reality, we have no clue how much fun other people are actually having.
3. Why does nothing good ever happens to me?
First of all, not true. Second of all, never should NEVER be in your vocabulary. If you’re continually putting out negative energy into the universe, you’re never going to attract the positive things you want in life. If you change your mindset, you’ll change your life.
4. Why am I always unhappy with my body?
Body shaming yourself or anyone else just isn’t cool. We’re not always going to be happy with our bodies, but instead of putting ourselves down, we should be pointing out the things we love about ourselves. And if you feel there are areas for improvement, work towards a goal you have in mind. Just remember to stay kind to yourself in the process.
5. Why am I not further ahead in life?
Regardless of how you feel, you’re exactly where you need to be in life. It’s easy to compare ourselves to others and wonder why we aren’t further along in life, work, and relationships. Don’t force what is not meant to be just because society or other people interject on what they feel is right for you. Enjoy the ride instead of rushing to the destination.
6. When will I be good enough?
The happiest people are the ones that are comfortable and confident in their own skin. They don’t compare themselves to other people and don’t try to live up to other people’s expectations. The answer is you’re already good enough; you just need to believe you are too. Everyone was made different for a reason, so embrace your uniqueness, and be authentic and true to yourself.
Bottomline is you will set yourself up to be unhappy if you’re always putting yourself down. We know being negative is so much easier, but stop asking yourself those toxic questions, and strive to be strong and confident. You’re exactly where you need to be right now, and you are perfect just the way you are.