Some of us have a choice, some of us don’t, and some of us are still trying to decide. Whichever situation you may find yourself in, we will review the perks and struggles of living at home after college.
Of course, every situation is completely different. In my situation, I did not have a choice when I first graduated from college because I had to wait until I found a job. Once I found a job, I continued to live at home to start saving money.
I currently still live at home because it makes the most sense for me at this time. I do have an escape plan, but until then, I thought I would share the perks and struggles that I have experienced while moving back in with the rents after graduating from college.
The Perks Of Living At Home
- Saving Money: No rent or mortgage payments. This is the main reason most people move back home and usually the only reason. Shortly after you graduate, those loan payments will start coming for you, and they will find you. When you move back in with the rents, and don’t have to pay rent, you can put the little bit of money that you have towards loan payments and start working on getting those paid off.
- Less Responsibility: You are only responsible for your room or common areas, not the entire house like you would be if you had your own place. This depends on your living arrangements, but typically when you live in someone else’s house, you are only responsible for the area you are living in, like your room and bathroom and of course helping out with the common areas. One day, when you own your own home, you will be shocked at all of the responsibilities and up-keep that will come along with it. So enjoy just having “house chores” while you can.
- Free Food: I buy most of my own groceries, but the roomies will share their food with me as well. And by roomies, I mean my parents. They also like to make home made meals on many occasions, so free food!
- Quality Time: Is it bad that I listed this one after free food? Oops. But yeah, let’s face it, the rents won’t be here forever, and once you move out for good, you will really only see them for special occasions. So think of this time period as another chance to make memories and show your parents how much you appreciate them. Life is short. Always remember that, so spend as much time with your loved ones as possible.
The Struggles Of Living At Home
- Lack of Privacy: Say goodbye to any bit of privacy you had when you lived on your own for college. Once you move back under your parent’s roof, they now have the right (or think they have the right) to bombard you at anytime. They want to know EVERYTHING. Where you are going, Why you are going there. Who you will be with. How much it will cost you. When you will be back. The list goes on and on. They will ask questions until you can no longer speak. If you ever wanted to feel like a celebrity, you will now feel as if you have your own paparazzi crew hounding you for details. And just because it’s called “your room” you will soon learn that title means nothing.
- Unwarranted Opinions: Wasn’t it nice, being able to do what you wanted, whenever you wanted and making decisions on your own in college? That is all a part of the past now. When you live back with the parents, it will feel like high school all over again because they are going to have an opinion about every single thing that you do, and no it doesn’t matter if you asked for advice or not, you will get it anyways.
- House Rules: Not your house, not your rules. When you live in someone else’s house, you have to respect their rules. Forget about letting that cereal bowl sit in the sink until you get home from work to wash it. The thermostat must stay at 74 degrees at all times. No loud music, and absolutely no Keeping Up With The Kardashians because that is now”mindless garbage”. God forbid you leave a light on for more than 3 point 5 minutes, you will be scolded. If you want to invite friends over, a formal request with all the details but be submitted for approval…you get the picture.
- What Is Yours, Is Now Everyone’s: You know that meal prepping you spent hours putting together, shopping for, cooking and pre-packaging for the week? Well, you better have some really good hiding skills or a mini fridge in your room, or you should probably just not even waste your time. And it’s not about the money you spent on the food, because obviously with the cash your parents are sparing you on rent, the least you can do is share your food with them. BUT what it is about is that you spent HOURS planning out your meals so precisely so that you could stick to your plan of healthy eating while saving time during the week, that THIS TOTALLY THROWS OFF YOUR WHOLE ROUTINE. (Sorry, but the very limited time that I have is very valuable.)
Although it has its cons, living back home with your parents, definitely has many positives. My takeaway for you, from my personal experience, is if you have a family who loves you and is willing to take you under their wing again, you should seriously consider it.
Moving back in with the rents will really help you to get your finances together and get you on your feet before you are ready to completely be on your own. As much as I cannot wait for the day that my boyfriend and I can afford to purchase our first home together, I can honestly say that moving back in with the parentals after I graduated from college, was one of the best decisions that I have ever made.
What are your thoughts about moving back home?